Emotional Competence – Workshop 1 (24hr Emotions)
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Mission Statement
Coaching session using the Positivity Ratio.Take two minutes to complete the Positivity Self Test now. Your score provides a snapshot of how your emotions of the past day combine to create your positivity ratio.
Objectives
01. Positivity Ratio: departmental SWOT analysis; strategy research & development. Time Allocated: 1 Month
02. Emotion Importance: departmental SWOT analysis; strategy research & development. Time Allocated: 1 Month
03. Workplace Emotions: departmental SWOT analysis; strategy research & development. Time Allocated: 1 Month
04. Positive Emotions: departmental SWOT analysis; strategy research & development. Time Allocated: 1 Month
05. Negative Emotions: departmental SWOT analysis; strategy research & development. Time Allocated: 1 Month
06. Emotional Triggers: departmental SWOT analysis; strategy research & development. Time Allocated: 1 Month
07. Emotional Control: departmental SWOT analysis; strategy research & development. 1 Month
08. Group Emotional Intelligence: departmental SWOT analysis; strategy research & development. Time Allocated: 1 Month
09. Emotional Culture: departmental SWOT analysis; strategy research & development. Time Allocated: 1 Month
10. Increasing Positivity: departmental SWOT analysis; strategy research & development. Time Allocated: 1 Month
11. Resilience: departmental SWOT analysis; strategy research & development. Time Allocated: 1 Month
12. Team Performance: departmental SWOT analysis; strategy research & development. Time Allocated: 1 Month
Strategies
01. Positivity Ratio: Each individual department head to undertake departmental SWOT analysis; strategy research & development.
02. Emotion Importance: Each individual department head to undertake departmental SWOT analysis; strategy research & development.
03. Workplace Emotions: Each individual department head to undertake departmental SWOT analysis; strategy research & development.
04. Positive Emotions: Each individual department head to undertake departmental SWOT analysis; strategy research & development.
05. Negative Emotions: Each individual department head to undertake departmental SWOT analysis; strategy research & development.
06. Emotional Triggers: Each individual department head to undertake departmental SWOT analysis; strategy research & development.
07. Emotional Control: Each individual department head to undertake departmental SWOT analysis; strategy research & development.
08. Group Emotional Intelligence: Each individual department head to undertake departmental SWOT analysis; strategy research & development.
09. Emotional Culture: Each individual department head to undertake departmental SWOT analysis; strategy research & development.
10. Increasing Positivity: Each individual department head to undertake departmental SWOT analysis; strategy research & development.
11. Resilience: Each individual department head to undertake departmental SWOT analysis; strategy research & development.
12. Team Performance: Each individual department head to undertake departmental SWOT analysis; strategy research & development.
Tasks
01. Create a task on your calendar, to be completed within the next month, to analyze Positivity Ratio.
02. Create a task on your calendar, to be completed within the next month, to analyze Emotion Importance.
03. Create a task on your calendar, to be completed within the next month, to analyze Workplace Emotions.
04. Create a task on your calendar, to be completed within the next month, to analyze Positive Emotions.
05. Create a task on your calendar, to be completed within the next month, to analyze Negative Emotions.
06. Create a task on your calendar, to be completed within the next month, to analyze Emotional Triggers.
07. Create a task on your calendar, to be completed within the next month, to analyze Emotional Control.
08. Create a task on your calendar, to be completed within the next month, to analyze Group Emotional Intelligence.
09. Create a task on your calendar, to be completed within the next month, to analyze Emotional Culture.
10. Create a task on your calendar, to be completed within the next month, to analyze Increasing Positivity.
11. Create a task on your calendar, to be completed within the next month, to analyze Resilience.
12. Create a task on your calendar, to be completed within the next month, to analyze Team Performance.
Introduction
Control your energy instead of your time.
Steve Wanner, a partner at Ernst & Small who is 37 years old, is well-liked and married with four young children. He was working 12- to 14-hour days when we first met him, always felt weary, and struggled to completely engage with his family in the evenings, which made him feel guilty and unsatisfied. He had trouble sleeping, didn’t find time to work out, and rarely ate healthy meals; instead, he would grab a snack while he was on the go or sitting at his desk.
Wanner’s situation is not unusual. The majority of us increase our work hours in response to increasing demands at work, but this will eventually have an adverse effect on our physical, mental, and emotional health. As a result, there is a decline in employee engagement, an increase in distraction, high rates of turnover, and skyrocketing medical expenses. Over the past five years, the Energy Project has provided consulting and coaching to numerous large enterprises, working with thousands of executives and managers. These CEOs tell us they’re working harder than ever to keep up with things and that they increasingly feel like they are reaching their breaking point with startling consistency.
The fact that time is a limited resource is the main issue with working longer hours. Another matter entirely is energy. Energy, which in physics is defined as the ability to operate, originates in humans from four basic sources: the body, emotions, mind, and spirit. By establishing specialised rituals—behaviors that are deliberately repeated and meticulously organised, with the objective of making them unconscious and automatic as rapidly as possible—energy can be methodically extended and routinely renewed in each.
The fact that time is a limited resource is the main issue with working longer hours. Another matter entirely is energy.
Organizations must change their focus from getting more out of people to investing more in them in order to motivate and enable them to bring more of themselves to work every day. This will effectively reenergize their workforces. Individuals need to take responsibility for changing their energy-draining activities regardless of the situation they find themselves in in order to recharge.
Wanner’s life was changed by the routines and habits he developed to better manage his energies. He gave up drinking because it was keeping him up at night and set an earlier bedtime. Because of this, he awoke feeling more refreshed and inspired to work out, which he now does virtually every morning. He shed 15 pounds in less than two months. He now has breakfast with his family after working out. Wanner continues to put in hard hours at work, but he often rejuvenates himself in the process. He normally goes outside for a morning and an afternoon walk, and he gets up from his desk for lunch. He is more at ease and able to connect with his wife and kids when he gets home in the evening.
Simple rituals like this can be established to produce impressive benefits throughout businesses. We put a group of workers through a trial energy management programme at Wachovia Bank and then compared their output to a control group’s. In terms of a number of financial criteria, including the amount of loans they produced, the participants beat the controls. Additionally, they reported significant improvements in their interactions with customers, their commitment to their jobs, and their level of pleasure.
Wachovia’s Linking Capacity and Performance
The majority of large firms make investments in the knowledge, competence, and skills of their workforce. Few contribute to the development and maintenance of their capacity—their energy—which is frequently taken for granted. In reality, increased capacity enables more to be accomplished in less time with better involvement and sustainability.
How Energy Renewal Programs at Wachovia Increased Productivity
Employees at Wachovia Bank who took part in an energy renewal initiative performed better than a control group,…
Participants were also questioned about how the programme affected them personally. It improved their relationships with clients and customers, according to 68% of respondents. Seventy-one percent of respondents claimed that it significantly or noticeably improved their performance and productivity. These results supported a wealth of anecdotal data we’d gathered about the success of this strategy among executives at other big businesses like Ernst & Young, Sony, Deutsche Bank, Nokia, ING Direct, Ford, and MasterCard.
The Emotions: Energy Level
Regardless of the stress they are under from the outside world, people can increase the quality of their energy when they are able to better manage their emotions. To do this, people must first become more conscious of their emotions and the effects those emotions have on their productivity during the course of the workday. Most people are aware that their performance tends to be at its highest when they are feeling upbeat. They find it shocking that when they are feeling any other way, they are unable to lead or perform successfully.

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We are unfortunately not physiologically able to sustain intensely joyful feelings for extended periods of time without intermittent recovery. When faced with constant demands and unforeseen difficulties, people frequently experience negative emotions (the fight-or-flight response) several times during the day. They start to feel nervous and insecure, perhaps angry and impatient. Such mental states sap people’s energy and lead to conflict in their interpersonal connections. Clear, logical, and reflective thought are also all but impossible when experiencing fight-or-flight feelings. Executives have a higher ability to control their reactions when they learn to identify the circumstances that make them feel bad.
Expressing gratitude to others, a ritual that seems to be as helpful to the giver as it is to the receiver, is a strong one that fosters happy emotions. It can be delivered orally, in writing, via email, phone call, or in-person interaction, and the more exact and thorough, the more powerful the message. Like other rituals, the likelihood of success is greatly increased by designating a specific time to carry it out. Ben Jenkins, vice chairman and president of the General Bank at Wachovia in Charlotte, North Carolina, included his ritual of appreciation into the allotted period for mentoring. He started scheduled frequent lunches or dinners with his employees. Previously, he had only met with his direct reports to offer them annual performance reviews or to receive monthly updates on their financial success. He now prioritises praising their achievements and conversing with them about their lives and objectives during meals rather than their immediate job obligations.
Finally, by learning to alter the stories they tell themselves about the events in their lives, people can learn to nurture positive feelings. Conflicted individuals frequently play the victim, attributing their issues to other people or outside forces. Understanding how the facts of a situation differ from how we interpret those facts can be powerful in and of itself. Many of the individuals we work with have found it to be a revelation that they have a choice in how they interpret an event and that their story has a significant impact on the feelings they experience. Without downplaying or rejecting the realities, we instruct students to provide the most upbeat and personally empowered narrative they can in any given circumstance.
By learning to alter the narratives they tell themselves about the events in their lives, people can learn to cultivate positive energy. We instruct them to tell the most upbeat tales we can.
The best method to change a tale is to look at it from one of three new perspectives, all of which are different from the victim’s point of view. For instance, while using the reverse lens, individuals ask themselves, “What would the other person in this conflict say and in what ways might it be true?” They question, “How will I most likely evaluate this issue in six months?” using the long lens. They question themselves, “Regardless of how this issue turns out, how can I develop and learn from it?” using a broad lens. Each of these perspectives can assist individuals in consciously cultivating more joyful emotions.
When Sony experienced many battery recalls in 2006, Nicolas Babin, head of corporate communications for Sony Europe, served as the lead person for calls from reporters. Over time, he grew more and more worn out and discouraged by his duties. He started figuring out methods to tell himself a more empowering and positive story about his role after completing the lens exercises. He says, “I realised that this was an opportunity for me to build stronger relationships with journalists by being accessible to them and to increase Sony’s credibility by being straightforward and honest.”
The Mind: Energy Concentration
Given all the responsibilities that executives must juggle, multitasking is often seen as necessary, but it actually reduces productivity. Distractions cost money. Switching time is the phenomena whereby the amount of time required to complete the primary activity rises by as much as 25% when attention is briefly diverted from one work to another, such as pausing to answer an email or accept a call. It’s much more effective to give your complete attention for 90 to 120 minutes at a time, break truly, and then give your full attention to the following task. These work sessions are referred to as “ultradian sprints.”
People might develop rituals to lessen the many disruptions that technology has introduced into their life once they become aware of how difficult it is for them to focus. We begin with a practise that makes students confront the effects of daily distractions. People remark that when they try to finish a difficult work but are frequently interrupted, the experience feels a lot like ordinary life.
Focusing systematically on tasks that have the most long-term leverage is an additional strategy for mobilising mental energy. If more difficult work isn’t specifically scheduled into their calendar, individuals frequently put it off or rush through it. The CEOs with whom we work have probably found that choosing the biggest issue for the following day each evening and making it their top priority when they wake up is the most effective focus ritual. As many people do, Jean Luc Duquesne, a vice president for Sony Europe in Paris, used to respond to his e-mail as soon as he arrived at work. He now makes an effort to focus on the most crucial subject for the first hour of each day. At 10 in the morning, he discovers that he frequently feels as though his day has already been productive.
The Human Spirit: Meaning and Purposeful Energy
When people’s daily job and activities are in line with the things they value most and that give them a feeling of meaning and purpose, they are able to access the power of the human spirit. They usually feel more upbeat, have better concentration, and show more endurance when the work they’re doing matters to them. Unfortunately, corporate life’s high expectations and quick speed allow little time for thought on these matters, and many individuals aren’t even aware that meaning and purpose can be sources of energy. Indeed, it is likely to have little effect if we attempt to start our programme by emphasising the human spirit. Participants don’t fully understand how attending to their own deeper needs has a significant impact on their performance and job satisfaction at work until after they have experienced the usefulness of the rituals they build in the other dimensions.
Jonathan Anspacher, a partner at E&Y, found it exhilarating and instructive to simply have the chance to ask himself a series of questions about what truly meant to him. He advised us to ask ourselves, “What do you want to be remembered for?” and to be a little self-reflective. “You don’t want to be known as the crazy partner who put in such long hours and caused his team to suffer. Can you come to my band’s show when my kids phone and ask? I want to confirm that I’ll attend and that I’ll sit in the first row. I don’t want to be the dad who enters the room, sits in the back, checks his Blackberry, then gets up to answer the phone.
The three categories of doing what they do best and enjoy most at work, consciously allocating time and energy to the areas of their lives they deem most important—work, family, health, and service to others, and living their core values in their daily behaviors—are necessary for people to access the energy of the human spirit.
It’s crucial to understand that your best qualities and your favourite activities aren’t necessarily mutually exclusive while trying to figure out who you are and what you enjoy doing most. Even when you excel at something and receive tonnes of compliments on it, you might not actually enjoy it. On the other hand, you can love doing something but not have a talent for it, in which case putting up the effort necessary to succeed is not worthwhile.
We invite programme participants to think back on at least two professional experiences from the previous several months during which they felt effective, effortlessly absorbed, inspired, and fulfilled. This will help them identify their areas of strength. Then, we ask students to analyse those events to determine precisely what motivated them in such a positive way and what particular skills they were using. Is being in command or engaging in creative work more energising, for example, if leading strategy seems like a sweet spot? Or is it practising a skill that naturally comes to you and makes you feel good? Finally, we ask participants to create a ritual that will motivate them to engage in more of precisely that kind of work activity.
There is frequently a comparable gap between what individuals say is important and what they actually do in the second category, investing time and attention to what is important to you. Rituals may be able to bridge this gap. Spending time with his family was the thing that meant most to Jean Luc Duquesne, the vice president of Sony Europe, yet it frequently got squeezed out of his day when he gave it any serious thought. So that he could concentrate on his family, he established a ritual in which he switches off for at least three hours every evening when he gets home. He admitted to, “I’m still not an expert on PlayStation,” he said, “but according to my youngest son, I’m learning and I’m a good student.” When Steve Wanner commuted home, he used to talk on his cell phone all the way to his front door. Now, he has a designated location 20 minutes from his home where he finishes calls and puts his phone away. In order to be less focused on work and more available to his wife and kids when he gets home, he relaxes for the remainder of his drive.
Many people find it difficult to live out their primary principles in their daily activity, which falls under the third category. Most people move through life at such a rapid speed that they rarely take time to reflect on their values and goals. As a result, they allowed outside pressures to direct their behaviour.
We don’t advise people to state their values openly because the outcomes are typically too predictable. As an alternative, we try to elicit them, in part by using unintentionally illuminating questions like, “What are the attributes that you find most repulsive when you see them in others?” People accidentally reveal what they stand for by expressing what they can’t tolerate. For instance, if you find stinginess to be particularly offensive, generosity is certainly one of your core values. Consideration is probably a high value for you if you are particularly offended by rudeness in others. Similar to the other categories, creating rituals can aid in bridging the gap between your current behaviour and the values you aspire to. The practise can be to terminate meetings you run five minutes earlier than usual and purposefully arrive five minutes early for the meeting that comes next if you find that thoughtfulness is a core value but you are consistently late for meetings.
People can make significant progress toward reaching a higher feeling of alignment, pleasure, and well-being in their life both on and off the job by addressing these three categories. These emotions themselves are a source of good energy, and they encourage participants to stick with rituals in other energy dimensions as well.
Only to the extent that firms encourage their employees to adopt new behaviours will this new method of working become widespread. We have discovered, sometimes painfully, that not all business leaders and organisations are willing to accept the idea that employee personal rejuvenation would result in higher and more long-lasting performance. Renewal initiatives require strong backing and dedication from senior management, starting with the primary decision maker.
Several hundred leaders at Sony Europe have adopted the concepts of energy management. More than 2,000 of their direct reports will go through the energy rejuvenation programme throughout the course of the following year. Since Fujio Nishida, it has been more socially acceptable at Sony to take short breaks, exercise during the day, check e-mail only at specific times, and even inquire about the stories that irritated or impatient coworkers are telling themselves.
Changes in behaviours, communications, and rules are all part of organisational support. Many of the businesses have constructed “renewal rooms,” where people may go frequently to unwind and refuel. Some provide discounted gym memberships. In some instances, managers will gather teams of workers for lunchtime exercises. To guarantee that people have at least one hour completely free of meetings, one organisation implemented a no-meeting zone between 8 and 9 am. Senior executives at various firms, including Sony, decided to cease checking email during meetings in order to make them more productive and focused.
Many businesses have created “renewal rooms” where individuals can frequently go to unwind and replenish.
Success can be hampered by a crisis attitude, for example. Organizations that experience just enough pain to be eager for new answers but not enough to be utterly overwhelmed make the best candidates for energy renewal programmes. The senior team at one company, where we had the active support of the CEO, couldn’t tear themselves away from their focus on immediate survival despite the fact that taking time off for renewal might have allowed them to be more productive at a more sustainable level. The company was under intense pressure to grow rapidly.
In contrast, the team at Ernst & Young completed the procedure effectively during the busiest time of the tax season. They practised controlling their emotions by breathing or telling themselves other stories, with the approval of their supervisors, and they alternated moments of intense concentration with restorative pauses. The majority of the group members said that they had never felt less stressed than they did throughout this busy season.
Today, corporations and their employees have an implicit agreement that each will make every effort to get as much from the other as possible, as quickly as possible, and then move on without looking back. That is, in our opinion, mutually destructive. Instead of becoming enriched, both the individuals and the organisations they work for become deprived. Employees are becoming more and more stressed out. Organizations are compelled to accept workers who aren’t totally engaged and to continuously hire and train new employees to take the place of those who opt to depart. We propose a new, clear contract that is advantageous to all parties: To help them create and maintain their value, organisations invest in their employees across all facets of their lives. People react by bringing their entire multidimensional energy to work every day. The worth of both rises as a result.
Executive Summary
Chapter 1: Positivity Ratio
The definition of positivity and how it can change people’s lives are presented by Fredrickson in her 2009 book Positivity. At the time, research indicated that the ideal level of positivity for high-functioning teams, partnerships, and marriages was about a 3:1 ratio (this is sometimes referred to as the Losada Ratio). According to Fredrickson, having a roughly equal amount of good and negative emotions helps people reach their highest levels of resilience and well-being. The talks on how a positive frame of mind might improve relationships, health, relieve depression, and widen the mind were sparked by this scientific discovery, which was revolutionary.
The three to one positive ratio
Because of the beautiful and hard-wired design of your neural system by nature, negativity lasts longer than positive. According to research, it takes three positive experiences to make up for one negative one. For every ripping negative emotional experience you go through, at least three sincere happy emotional experiences that lift you are required, according to Dr. Barbara Fredrickson, a happiness researcher at the University of North Carolina. By using what she refers to as the 3-to-1 ratio, you may create a cooperative relationship between your survival mind and your flourish mind. According to Fredrickson, being positive does not include adhering to the axioms of “grin and bear it” or “don’t worry, be joyful.” “Those are just surface-level wishes. Optimism goes further. It includes every pleasant emotion under the sun, from admiration to love, laughter to joy, and everything in between.
Chapter 2: Emotion Importance
In business, feelings have a terrible reputation. We’ve been trained to think they have less validity than thoughts. It’s not personal, it’s simply business, as we all know. This claim argues that objective facts trump personal feelings. However, as emotions are an integral component of the human experience, it would be foolish and impossible to exclude them from judgement, interaction, and decision-making.
Recent research (paywall) demonstrates that cognition and emotions work together to shape intention and behaviour. Humans evaluate a situation simultaneously on the cognitive and emotional levels. These evaluations lead to:
1. A feeling of well-being
2. A list of goals for the person’s behaviour in the future
In other words, the mind processes both thought and emotion, deciding if the circumstance is favourable or unfavourable, and then deciding how to respond. In terms of how it relates to business, there are two key conclusions from this neuroscience research:
1. The brain does not manage cognition and emotion separately.
2. Employee goal-setting and organisational outcomes are significantly impacted by the intentions that emerge (through the assessment process).
Consider the following scenarios: A coworker (and friend) is abruptly fired; you are given an impossible task; or the project you firmly believe in is shelved after months of work. The most frequent negative emotions felt at work are worry, unhappiness, frustration, and rage, therefore any of these circumstances could leave you feeling one of these ways.
Whether you realise it or not, these feelings may make you feel threatened, and that feeling may cause you to use less of your free time, be less kind to your coworkers, consider leaving the company, or second-guess your support for it or its leaders. Detrimental emotions can have negative effects that must not be ignored. They have an effect on a company’s bottom line in addition to your energy quality.
On the other hand, Barbara Fredrickson’s research on positive emotions demonstrates that positive affect not only predicts future happiness and success, but also reflects present safety, contentment, and achievement. Positive emotion cultivation over time (at least a 3:1 ratio) has a “broaden-and-build” effect on the person doing it. Positive emotion expression makes room for new opportunities, abilities, relationships, and knowledge.
It begs us all to pay more attention to it since work is rife with opportunities for emotion and because employees make decisions with both their perceiving hearts and their reasoning heads.
Chapter 3: Workplace Emotions
Although it can be simple for managers to dismiss feelings at work, doing so can have serious repercussions. It goes without saying that feelings are important in the job. Stress, anger, or other negative emotions can impair a person’s ability to function at work and interact with others. It’s critical for managers to understand these feelings and how to handle them. Managers can cultivate a healthy work environment for their team and support their success by comprehending and acknowledging the significance emotions play in the workplace.
Why Are Emotions Important at Work?
It may be possible to predict workplace outcomes by looking at the emotional climate there. Here are some basic ways that workplace emotions impact an organisation:
• Top talent is attracted to a happy workplace because it fosters higher retention rates and loyalty to the business in addition to attracting the best candidates.
• It’s possible to have too much of a good thing, which can impair critical thinking and decrease productivity.
• Stress has been demonstrated to have a negative impact on memory, attention, impulse control, and mental flexibility. Because of this, organisations that overly enforce rules or overlook the need of establishing a healthy emotional culture may find that their employees are less productive.
• Burnout is supposed to result from low morale at work over an extended length of time. Emotional depletion leads to burnout. This may be a result of a variety of professional problems, including a sense of being devalued at work, a lack of influence, or a lack of teamwork among teammates.
• Positive feelings promote innovation: People are more likely to come up with fresh ideas when they feel free to express themselves and are encouraged to take chances. And those ideas are more likely to be turned into successful goods or services when they are greeted with encouragement and enthusiasm.
What Does Emotional Intelligence Look Like at Work?
The capacity to recognise and control one’s own emotions as well as those of others is known as emotional intelligence (EI). Self-awareness, empathy, and self-control are all necessary. EI involves comprehending and controlling feelings, as opposed to conventional intelligence, which is centred on cognitive abilities.
Emotional intelligence can be a useful tool in the job for managing relationships, handling challenging talks, and resolving conflict. People with emotional intelligence are better equipped to foster a supportive and fruitful work environment.
Chapter 4: Positive Emotions
Negative emotions, such as worry, dread, and sadness, have a long history of being linked to physical and mental health problems. Recent research, however, emphasises the advantages of positive feelings including happiness, joy, awe, and gratitude that were previously underappreciated.
The relationships and effects of having pleasant emotions have been the subject of a wave of research during the last fifteen years. It is obvious that people who experience pleasant emotions frequently do better at home and at work, even if researchers are still trying to understand the precise mechanisms that connect positive emotions to these crucial outcomes.
As a result, corporate wellness initiatives that boost workplace happiness are becoming into potent instruments for achieving desired outcomes that raise general employee wellbeing and productivity.
A Better Relationship Between Positive Emotions and Better Stress Management
Recent studies have examined both happy feelings that arise naturally throughout daily living and positive emotions that are induced in a laboratory setting. In the latter, pleasant emotions can be successfully induced in a variety of ways, for instance by playing quick film segments that specifically target a desired feeling, like joy.
Overall, these research have shown that having pleasant emotions has positive effects, from better physical health to less turnover at work. Positive emotions are linked to better physical health and longer lifespans, which is one of the study’s most compelling conclusions.
Chapter 5: Negative Emotions/ Negativity Bias
What can you do, particularly when you’re feeling bad?
1. Make emotion normal.
Accept feelings as they are; don’t react or pass judgement on them. Both your own and other people’s emotions apply here. Try to embrace the emotion as neutral and natural, not good or bad. By doing this, the possibility that shame will enter the picture is reduced. All emotions should be accepted, I remind my clients, but some behaviours (violence, insults, outbursts, and tantrums) shouldn’t be.
2. Take a step back.
By not too connecting with them, unpleasant feelings might stop being unpleasant. Putting the feeling into perspective allows us to realise that it is information, not us. Writing is frequently a fantastic approach to observe and externalise feelings.
3. Conduct research on the feeling.
The first two steps should be completed before this. Study your emotion after that. Be enquiring. Even when everything makes sense, a situation may still not feel right. Look for the lessons the feeling can teach you.
Motivation, emotion, and cognition all work together to influence how people perceive and act. It undermines interpersonal efficacy, long-term performance, employee commitment, and job happiness to act as though sentiments don’t matter in the workplace. Whether you are a leader or a follower in the organisation, it is your obligation to 1) notice emotion, 2) moderate the highs and lows, and 3) integrate it into your actions so that you may act with a more positive intention, optional motivation, and awareness of the entire system.
Positive emotions can help the body by repairing the harm caused by negative emotions and stress. In other words, cheerful people seem to recover from stresses more quickly than sad people do, suggesting that positive emotions are linked to quicker recovery from stressful experiences.
Positive feelings can be a powerful weapon in the fight against stress’s cumulative effects. Additionally, studies suggest that feeling well may directly impact health through many channels.
For instance, several research have revealed a link between good emotions and stronger immune system functioning, which may affect our capacity to fend off illnesses and lower absenteeism and sick leave among workers. Regardless of the precise reasons or mechanisms involved, there is a clear and convincing link between happiness and good health.
Chapter 6: Emotional Triggers
You likely go through a range of feelings every day, including excitement, anxiety, irritation, joy, and disappointment. These frequently have to do with certain occasions, such meeting your employer, discussing the news with a friend, or running into your partner.
Depending on your state of mind and the situational factors, your reaction to these experiences may differ.
Whatever your current mood, an emotional trigger is anything that causes a strong emotional response, including memories, experiences, or events.
A crucial element of having excellent emotional health is understanding your emotional triggers (and how to deal with them).
It’s not always simple to remain composed and serene while working. Daily emotional events include unanticipated remarks that ruin your mood, tough supervisors, annoying coworkers, and making blunders. It can be challenging to maintain composure when these things occur in public situations, particularly if your internal resources are already low.
Despite this obstacle, maintaining composure in the face of tense circumstances is the essence of executive presence, or the capacity to encourage others to have faith in you. To communicate thoughtfully and achieve your desired results, you must control when and how you process your emotions. Here, it’s advised not to brush your emotions under the rug. In order to respond in ways that help you both in the present and after it has passed, you must learn to pause and obtain the clarity you need. It won’t be possible to temporarily vanish by turning off your camera as more teams return to the office.
Chapter 7: Emotional Control
Working with emotions can be challenging.
You can discover that while your emotions sometimes motivate you to take positive action, other times they push you to self-destruct.
The idea of “opposite action” is one strategy for managing strong emotions at work.
This psychological notion encourages us to embrace and manage our emotions as opposed to suppressing them.
The phrase “opposite action” means exactly what it says. By acting in opposition to what our emotions are telling us to do, we can reroute strong emotions toward healthy behaviour.
Let’s look at an instance of receiving unfavourable comments:
Determine the impulse that goes along with the feelings you’re feeling.
Let’s assume that you often experience disappointment when your supervisor offers suggestions for how to make your presentation better. What memories come to mind when you think back to past periods in your life when you frequently felt deeply disappointed? What behaviours or compulsions did you see yourself having? You probably had the need to hide or run. Perhaps you spent hours crying in your bedroom after receiving a poor mark on a report card. Maybe you still feel the impulse to run away and hide as an adult when you receive unfavourable criticism.
Analyze the urge to see if it is appropriate.
You can avoid speaking with your supervisor out of a desire to retreat after being disappointed. The next time you see her walking down the hall, you might consider hiding into a conference room, or you might consider taking a few days off work to recover from the setback. Ask yourself if carrying out either of those activities would be in your best interests.
Chapter 8: Group Emotional Intelligence
Like every social group, a team develops its own personality. Therefore, it takes more than a few people to behave in an emotionally intelligent manner for a group to experience an upward, self-reinforcing spiral of trust, group identity, and group efficacy. It requires a team environment where the norms foster emotional capacity (the capability to respond constructively in emotionally taxing situations) and positively shape emotions.
Because teams interact at more levels than individuals do, team emotional intelligence is more complex than individual emotional intelligence. Let’s first examine Daniel Goleman’s definition of the term “individual emotional intelligence” to better comprehend the distinctions. Goleman describes the key traits of someone with high emotional intelligence in his seminal book Emotional Intelligence: awareness of emotions and the capacity to control them, directed both within, toward oneself, and outward, toward others. According to Goleman, being conscious of and in control of one’s own emotions is the foundation of “personal competence.” Awareness and control of other people’s emotions are components of “social competence.”
However, a group must pay attention to still another degree of awareness and control. It must be aware of its own group moods and emotions as well as the moods of other groups and people living outside of its borders.
We’ll look at how dysfunction can result from emotional inadequacy at any of these levels in this course manual. We’ll also demonstrate how adopting particular group rules that foster emotional awareness and management at these three levels can produce better results. We’ll start by concentrating on the individual level—how emotionally intelligent groups manage the emotions of each of their individual members. We’ll then concentrate on the group level. We’ll examine the cross-boundary level lastly.
Chapter 9: Emotional Culture
In your role as a leader, managing your emotions as a result of stressful situations at work extends to your personal life as well. People are complicated, and they have many different needs. While promoting your employees’ emotional well-being may seem like a therapist’s job, doing so is essential for the success of your business. Assessing your emotional culture is the first step in developing a workplace that is emotionally safe.
“Shared affective values, norms, artefacts, and assumptions” are what is meant by “emotional cultures,” and they dictate which emotions people are allowed to experience and express at work and which ones they should stifle. While some businesses embrace emotions wholeheartedly, others prefer to avoid them at all costs. Finding your organization’s position on the spectrum and choosing your course of action are crucial.
To identify your potential for emotional development, ask your leadership team to consider these questions.
• If you primarily selected “Always” or “Usually,” congratulations! The strong emotional culture that your company is fostering for its employees is admirable.
• It’s acceptable if you largely checked “Unsure,” but it’s not acceptable to remain in the dark. If you want to start changing the emotional climate of your company, take a look at the actions listed below.
• These are emotional culture red flags if you marked “Rarely” or “Never” the majority of the time. Your organization’s leaders ought to take these issues into consideration.
If you’ve discovered yourself on the “struggle bus,” don’t worry! Here are 3 ideas for building an emotionally supportive organisational culture that is powerful.
1. To promote positive expression
Imagine that you are inflating a balloon. The balloon will ultimately run out of room to grow as you add more air, and it will pop. This is what it could look like to hold your feelings within. Consider the effects that pressure might have on your staff.
Studies have revealed that suppressing those feelings can result in a number of health hazards, such as:
o Heart Disease
o Mental Illness
o Intestinal Problems
o Headaches
o Insomnia
o Autoimmune disorders
Emotions and feelings from the past are now physical health problems. the kinds of problems that have an impact on the productivity of your business and ultimately your bottom line. People would probably feel uneasy and disengaged if they don’t know how to convey their emotions effectively.
Motivate staff to prioritise finding a work-life balance.
Strong emotional cultures recognise how difficult it is to separate one’s personal and professional lives. Encourage your staff to schedule activities that will enhance every facet of their personal wellbeing.
2. Ensure Communication
According to our research, there is room for improvement in major firms’ change communication. Employees feel excluded from their work and the organisation when leadership doesn’t include them in crucial decisions. Because of this, workers frequently experience a lack of human attention and frequently engage in gossip.
Make a commitment to engaging in frank and straightforward dialogue with everyone in your business. Give your staff a range of opportunities to learn about and react to changes taking place at work. Have regular talks with your direct reports and encourage staff to voice their issues at one-on-one sessions.
3. Improve Feedback
Asking for input is a terrific method to find out why your staff members are feeling certain ways. Managers that understand the value of routinely communicating with staff members and taking the time to listen are better equipped to solve issues before they worsen.
Ask for input from workers at all levels whenever something seems off or a tense scenario develops. Your staff will be able to voice their worries and handle their emotions more effectively if you do this. In your engagement and pulse surveys, take into account incorporating pertinent questions.
Chapter 10: Increasing Positivity
The value of having an optimistic outlook in work
The value of having a positive outlook might seem obvious, but it’s so simple to get sucked into our own problems and dramas. You have to make an effort to avoid being negative during those moments, whether you or a coworker is experiencing hardship.
Negativity has never helped anyone succeed, according to Deborah Sweeney, CEO of MyCorporation. When you are among positive people, you feel better. They exhort you to aim high, put in a lot of effort, and maintain your dedication to achieving your goals. It is contagious to be positive. Over time, you might discover that due to your positive attitude, even the most obstinate employee who refuses to appreciate something changes their mind and becomes more upbeat.
Saying yes is a simple way to demonstrate a positive attitude at work.
Positivity is simple to preach. It’s harder to put it into action and be sincere about it.
The words you use might convey your mood, according to Sweeney. “Try new things and learn to say “yes” to everything. If you have some free time, offer your time and ask coworkers how you can assist them. Offer to lead new projects on your own initiative. Be truthful and kind to everyone; avoid persistent gossip and rumor-mongering.
Positive individuals, according to keynote speaker Rachel Sheerin on burnout and happiness, exude a certain energy.
She claimed that positive people exhibit their positive attitude through their words, deeds, and feelings. “Positive people radiate differently; they affect the world and the people around them just by entering the room with their energy.”
Experts generally agree that having a happy attitude is all about how you carry yourself. According to motivational speaker and personal development coach Jessi Beyer, a grin may lift the spirits of the entire office as opposed to a glum expression. She added that how you respond to circumstances and interact with coworkers can have a significant impact.
Chapter 11: Resilience
The Centers for Disease Control and Prevention report that a quarter of all workers consider their jobs to be their biggest stressor. The “global health epidemic of the 21st century” is stress, according to the World Health Organization. Many of us today work in highly demanding, always-on, continuously linked work environments where stress and the risk of burnout are common. Building resilience skills is more crucial than ever to successfully navigate your worklife because the pace and intensity of today’s workplace culture are not likely to alter.
In previous roles as director of learning and organisation development at Google, eBay, and J.P. Morgan Chase, as well as in my current role as co-founder of the learning solutions company Wisdom Labs, I have repeatedly observed that the most resilient people and teams are those that fail, learn from it, and go on to succeed. Being tested, sometimes harshly, is one of the factors that makes resilience as a skill set active.
The building blocks of resilience include attitudes, behaviours, and social supports that anybody can acquire and cultivate, according to more than five decades of research. Optimism, the capacity to maintain equilibrium and control over strong or challenging emotions, a sense of safety, and a robust social support network are all factors that contribute to resilience. The good news is that you can learn to be more resilient since there is a specific set of behaviours and skills linked to resilience.
Being optimistic inside develops a coping strategy for emotional resilience. In other words, a resilient worker always recovers by feeling good.
Your cognitive and social flexibility are increased.
based on a study, “Positive emotions increase the range of possible actions and thoughts, which should “erase” the residual cardiovascular effects of negative emotions. Therefore, it seems to have a special capacity to biologically down-regulate persistent unpleasant feelings.”
Positive feelings so cultivate resilience, which can aid workers in broadening their perspective to one of deliberation. Employees become mentally fit as well as emotionally robust as a result.
Chapter 12: Team Performance
According to a study, high-performing teams often experience 16% less rage at work than low-performing teams, which typically experience a high of 30%. When compared to low-performing teams, high-performing teams frequently feel twice as many good emotions.
As a result, your team will be more productive if everyone is happy with the work you are doing together. Emotions play a significant role on both individual and team performance.
Employees who lack an emotional connection to their work or to the workplace will never be able to produce positive results. Additionally, it will negatively affect your performance and level of motiva